Apparently, there exists a very popular opinion amongst men that, women only choose Bad Guys, or the guys who don’t actually deserve them over Nice Guys, or the guys who truly deserve them. They believe that women choose to go for the guy who doesn’t care enough for them and doesn’t treat them like a princess. While on the other hand, they never choose someone like Nice Guys, whose heart is as pure as gold, and someone who would never ever hurt them.
But why do women do such thing ?
Here are a few reasons why women choose “Bad Guys” over “Nice Guys”.
1. There is nothing such as “Nice Guys” or “Bad Guys”
Yes ! You read that right. There is nothing such as “Nice Guys” or “Bad Guys”. There are just guys. These terminologies are basically invented by those people who failed in their attempts to woo a woman. These are nothing but an excuse or a reason for them to justify their failure. The guys who couldn’t manage to get a woman, one day decided to call themselves as “Nice Guys” and the one who managed to take away their lady was referred to as the “Bad Guy”.
The person whom we are referring as a the Bad Guy is basically none other than a general Guy, who was true to himself. I mean let’s face it, he is a man, he has got the same needs as you do. The only difference is that he is taking some actions in order to accomplish his goals, while on the other hand, you are locked inside your room, writing poems and love songs for her. All that may sound highly flattering, the thing is that it doesn’t work now. It’s 21st century people. Love letter and poems may give you desired results temporarily, but they are not going to work in the long term.
For the sake of convenience, I will keep on using the above mentioned terminologies for the rest of the article, however, it should be kept in mind that I don’t really believe in them ( and even you shouldn’t).
2. Nice Guys are fake
This is yet another interesting fact regarding the Nice Guys. They wear a mask of innocence and pretend to be someone they are not. Think about it, the Bad guys and the Nice Guys have same goals, that is to impress a woman, but Bad guys are really clear about their intentions. They don’t intend to hide it or fake it. Furthermore, they absolutely hate the “Friend-Zone” because the fact of the matter is that it is very difficult to pull oneself out of this zone, once you have entered it. This is the biggest mistake that most guys do. Accepting the hand of friendship is nothing but a “certificate of failure”. It means that you have failed in being a guy, who is different from others, and deserves to be a slave to her needs for the time she wants. This may come out a bit rude, but it is true.
Nice guys try all the things to make a lady happy. Nevertheless, the lady doesn’t seem to twitch. And, despite the relentless toil, the guy fails in his endeavors. The reason behind it is simple. This is what exactly every guy out there is doing. She doesn’t find you any different from other guys. You are doing exactly what 100 others are ready to do for her anytime. Furthermore, nice guys become their “Best Friends” (aka “Slave for life”), in the hope that one day she will realize how much they love her. Believe me, that day is never gonna come. So, unless you are waiting for a miracle to occur, try not to be fake.
Face your fears and if it doesn’t work out, let her go.
3. Nice guys are weak
So, technically, our nice guys do not even have the audacity to deny to a woman’s demand, no matter how impractical or foolish it is. They pretend to be “in love” with this woman, but in fact they are actually too afraid of losing her (which they are definitely going to , in the future). Furthermore, they act needy and clingy. They don’t disagree to any of her orders and fulfill it with full thrill, in the hope that their lady would one day look at the brighter side of the things and will fall in love with them, seeing how hard they work for her. The reality is, that these things practically never work. Woman like guys who project strength and courage. By strength I don’t mean the physical strength, but the strength where she finds herself secure. Woman don’t want a weak guy, who is himself direction less in life, and is always dependent on others to fulfill his needs.
Bad guys make sure that doesn’t happen with them. They project firmness and solidity from their characters. They are not afraid to lose any one woman because they know that there are plenty of woman out there, who are much better and are just waiting for someone like them. As already discussed, they don’t fall in the “Friend-Zone” trap. They are not easily agitated or angered, when a woman is trying to test them (which woman do a lot), and also they don’t easily feel jealous, since they know that if things don’t work out here, there are plenty of opportunities for them outside.
4. Nice guys are boring
Nice guys mostly use the conventional approach while pursuing a woman, like calling her all the time, being available for her whenever she needs, etc. All of which is a sign of being needy. Moreover, in all this, they forget to do a very important thing, and that is to make a woman happy.
Woman seek out a guy who is exciting and one who could do something thrilling. They want their man to take them into some kind of adventure. On the other hand, all nice guys can offer, is their love. Women do want attention, but not the kind of one which nice guys give them. In addition to that, nice guys are absolutely non polarizing. They do not have any opinions of their own. They simply just follow the instructions given to them, and like a sheep they simply follow the herd, unknown of the direction they are going towards.
On the other hand, our bad guys are super polarizing. They have their own views, experiences, and stories to share. They don’t easily deviate from their points of view and barely submit to a woman’s demand. Now this behavior may sound a bit selfish to some our viewers, but in reality this is quite an attractive feature. Women are more inclined towards the guys who are bit egocentric. This is because of two reasons, First reason is that, these people put themselves first before any other person which is a very smart thing to do in today’s world, and second they don’t give too much attention to just one woman. Because of such reasons, woman are somewhat more attracted towards our guys from the “Bad guy Club”.
5. Nice guys don’t have a life
Another harsh reality about nice guys is that, they don’t have a life. Their entire focus and concentration is probably directed towards impressing one woman. Moreover, they have zero level social life. Given the fact that they are so much into the woman, they barely give much attention on the other areas of their life.
On the other hand, our bad guys don’t live such one dimensional life where only one goal exists. Unlike the nice guys, their life goal is not just impressing women. Instead they are much more dedicated to their friends and family. Also they give attention on their own well being, which gives them a great outlook of life. They are energetic and generate positive vibes. They are fun to be around and are everyone’s favourite. Additionally, they may be extrovert sometimes, but they are definitely great people to hang out with. They don’t fear failures or expect successes. They just keep trying new things out until they see the desired results. They live their life to the fullest, without any regrets or excuses.
When a woman sees all these qualities, she finds it hard to resist herself from falling in love with this person. And this is how “Bad Guys” win at the game of love.
Harsh Words 