Jealousy is an undeniable and an inevitable emotion. It can come in any form, through any person, at any stage of our life. It’s hard not to be jealous to someone, when they posses better things than we do. Usually, people tend to learn how to control this feeling, and deal with it accordingly with the passage of time.
However, when this unstoppable feeling creeps into our relationships, it could lead us to extremely detrimental consequences. Wanna know why ?
Here are 5 reasons why jealousy pulls out the worst in our relationship.
1. Say hello to “Paranoia”
When you allow jealousy to reside within your heart, your paranoid self will make it’s way in your life in no time. Jealousy and Paranoia are like counterparts of each other. They are like best friends, childhood companions, accomplices, or whatever you want to call them.
You will start looking at your partner with the eyes of suspicion. Paranoia will not only make you extremely oversensitive but even the smallest of your partner’s action will also have a huge impact on your life.
“Why is he not picking up my call ?” , “why was she laughing with her friend from work?”, “Why is he not replying back to my texts? Is he seeing someone else?”.
All such preposterous questions start popping up in our brain, making us suspicious of our partner’s activities. And when we could no longer hold these questions within ourselves, letting everything out seems like the only appropriate resort. However, not everytime will our partner take all our accusations and suspicion, gracefully. Sometimes, they may not accept those allegations and may fight us back .
It’s okay to keep some transparency between you and your partner, but giving them enough space to breathe, and letting them live their own life is equally important. Talk things out if you can’t deal with your jealousy on your own, and try to trust your partner.
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2. You become “Toxic”
By inviting jealousy, you are not only making your life hard, but your partner’s life as well. You may become difficult to handle, your thoughts might be flooded with negativity and with the ideas of revenge, and you would want the attention of your partner all the time.
Such behavior may not be taken well by your partner, thereby, inducing dissatisfaction. Furthermore, ths may compel your partner to leave you before you correct your behavior.
You’re not the fun person anymore you used to be . Now your days are filled with lack of excitement and thrill, and all you do is complain and nag over the smallest of things. Toxicity may drift you away from your partner slowly and gradually, and in no time you both will be apart forever.
Try to look out for the things that make you jealous from a different perspective and if you have some kind of doubts regarding your partner’s fidelity, straighten it out as soon as possible.
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3. Ruins your friendship
Every relationship requires friendship between the partners because that’s probably how you both started. Friendship is pure, genuine and doesn’t have any demands. You don’t have any extraordinary expectations and all you want is to spend time with each other.
However, this friendship is somewhere lost when you and your partner are constantly demanding things from each other. A relationship without friendship is like a skyscraper without a strong base. We all know what’s gonna happen with the skyscraper when the base is weak. Similarly your relationship will confront it’s devastating fate eventually, if the base of your friendship is rendered unstable.
Don’t allow jealousy to meddle between you two, and make sure to take a good care of your friendship.
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4. Too many disagreements
With the increase in jealousy, we tend to become more and more oversensitive with time. Moreover, our emotional bond with the person starts breaking. Contingencies start to replace understanding. Misinterpretations exchange it’s job with logic. And everything that comes out of all this chaos, contributes in damaging your relationship (and by extension your feelings).
Practically, we need to understand that as human beings we are obligated to change with time. It’s a natural process and a paramount requirement to survive on this planet. Therefore, it is absolutely obvious to see some changes in your partner as the time will pass. Even you would change with time. So eventually if you want your relationship to sustain, you will have to accept those changes in you and your partner.
However, if this change is accompanied by jealousy, the consequently may not be in the favour of your relationship.
Don’t resist the change. Accept whatever your life has to offer you.How to deal with post breakup insomnia ?
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5. You lose yourself
Somewhere along the road of jealousy, you will realize that you may have lost that cheerful and happy person you used to be, somewhere way behind.
All you do now is crave for your partner’s attention and his/her approval for everything in your life. Your mind is basically full of your lover’s thought and how he/she might be betraying you. You have lost your ability to make yourself happy. Only the things related to your relationship add some spice to your life, otherwise your life is completely bland.
All of this might be a result of prolonged jealousy towards your significant other.
Try to give your life another chance, and this time trust more and fear less.
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