How to deal with a toxic partner ?

Relationships can be tough. Especially, if you have a toxic partner to deal with. It becomes hard to concentrate on the positive side of things when your partner is constantly feeding you with the negative thoughts. The constant nagging and complains , drain our entire energy and become the source of our anxiety.

If you are also dealing with a toxic person, don’t worry you’re not alone. Here are 6 tips which might help you to smartly deal with such a person.

1. Be proactive

It is not the situation which makes our life difficult, but rather our response to it. However, if we somehow learn to control our response to a certain situation, things would be far better than they are today. So, the next time your partner instigates you , try something other than your conventional response. The most effective method would be agreeing to their accusations or rather accepting their point of view (even if they are wrong).

When your partner will notice a change in your demeanor, they might themselves modify their behavior since they would know that your response would be equivalent to null.

2. Apply the concept of “Space and Time”

Most people dwell within a misconception, that if they would spend more time with their partner, their relationship would bloom. Nothing could be further from truth. No matter how amazing your relationship is, your partner needs some space and time to understand their emotions and deal with it. If you will constantly compel them to fix the things right away, chances are that they may disappoint you. Everyone has a different learning speed and haste will definitely ruin the chances of improving the quality of your relationship. So, be patient with your partner and let the time do the magic.

3. Understand THEIR point of view

In our busy and stressful lives, we barely get any time to sit down and talk to our partner and resolve the differences in the relationship. And, this becomes even harder when our partner is shy and doesn’t easily open up about their problems. Many people are unable to explain their own emotions, in the fear of being judged and getting mistreated.

This can be easily settled by eradicating the communication barriers between you and your partner. Take some time out of your lives and talk to them without being judgemental or scratchy. Try to understand, their needs and expectations and make them feel loved and wanted.

4. Reflect on your own behavior

It is not always your partner who is at fault. Sometimes their reaction is basically the result of our actions. We find this behavior toxic and we refuse to check up on our own behavior. There might be certain things which your partner would find irritating and hassling as well, however, our compass of guilt is always pointing in their direction. It is easy to point fingers, but it is far more difficult accept our own flaws.

Try to think about all things that trigger your beloved one’s emotions and then work on it. Think about the time when your partner tried to tell you something which they thought was problematic for them, but you simply ignored considering it to be one of their everyday nags. Take the responsibility of your actions like an adult. This will not only grow the love between you two but will also attain you the respect of your partner. No person is perfect, but it is two imperfect people who make their relationship perfect.

5. Take a small “Break”

Just because things aren’t going in the right direction doesn’t necessarily mean that you should end things. Take a break from your partner for a few days. If you two are living together, spend some time away from each other. Take some time to breathe. Enjoy the company of your friends and family. Go on a trip to a beautiful destination. Click some photographs and post them on social media. Sometimes, the smallest of things give us immense pleasure.

Being away from your partner for a few days will definitely reignite your feelings for them and same will be the case on the other side. Once you are back, things will just go back to normal. Take such small breaks every year.

6. Let them go….

Walking away from your partner could be very hard. All those memories, expectations and feelings may shatter in a second. But, sometimes it is the only resort to peacefully live your life. You have limited days on this planet and you want to spend those days being happy and healthy. It is not necessarily anyone’s fault, but some people are just not meant to be together. For their happiness you have to let them go, so that they could understand and love themselves, before they start loving you. Walking away will not only help you grow but will also give you a clearer perspective of life.