Having a healthy and an animated relationship with our beloved ones in the 21st century has become one of the biggest concerns of our lives . An unhealthy relationship can very easily drain our energy and induce toxicity in our lives. We want to do the right things and want to attain the best out of our relationships, but things just don’t work out, and the worst part is that most of us don’t know the reasons behind all the disappointments and resentment from our partners.
Here are 7 tips which may help you to get some quality in your relationship and consequently achieve the happiness you deserve .
1. Become the “Guide” of your relationship.
Every relationship needs a direction. If your relationship is aimless, it is soon going to meet it’s dead end and even if it doesn’t , it won’t have the quality you expect. Therefore, you have to become the “Responsible One“. It is you who is supposed to be the “Torch-bearer” and show the light whenever you and your partner are feeling the darkness consuming your relationship. It’s you who is supposed to resolve the differences and resentments and eventually guide your relationship to a better place.
“Man is the maker of his own
destiny“
2. Just STOP being so oversensitive!!
The biggest problem with our generation is our ability to get easily startled and annoyed over the smallest of things. We have become incredibly sensitive, and to add the “cherry on top”, we have the social media, which is a great place to justify our anger and annoyance. For instance, if our beloved one doesn’t pick up our calls or doesn’t reply to our messages, we would be scratching our heads all the day long , expecting him or her to leave all the work and return a call or a message. This becomes the very root of the negative thoughts in our brain. Therefore, it is best not to plant this seed of negativity.
Practise optimism and trust your partner.
3. Give enough “space”.
With the immense availability of internet and resources, it has become extremely easy to reach out to your boyfriend or girlfriend any time of the day, but what we do not realise is that by reaching out to them several times a day, we are actually invading their “space”. We cannot always expect our beloved ones to be in the mood of talking or having fun. So, this becomes extremely important to give them enough space to breathe and love themselves before they love you.
4. Reduce your “Availability”.
In the initial phase of our relationships it becomes extremely hard to resist oneself from being unavailable to our partner. We want to be with them all the time. But, as the time passes, things start getting boring. You run out of topics to talk about and there is no “Mystery” left in your relationship. Having some mystery in your relationship is extremely crucial to maintain the excitement and fun. However, if you will be always available, soon those “love-talks” and “cute messages” will turn into quarrels and fights since you have nothing else to talk about! Therefore, you don’t need to be available for your beloved one 24×7. Reducing one’s availability for a short period of time might actually help “ignite the spark” in your relationship and achieve some good results.
Worth a shot !
5. Be the “Fun One” of your relationship.
Everyone likes to spend their time with someone who could amuse them. Time just flies when you are with someone who is a great entertainer and loves to have fun. In these stressful and depressed times, when everyone wants just a little “break” in their lives, having a friend or a partner who is funny and entertaining, is what everyone craves. The addition of humour will definitely enhance the quality of relationship. Think about it, if you are happy , you will most likely make your partner happy and consequently transform your relationship into a healthy one.
“Humour is a spice which will enhance the flavour of your relationship”
6. Handle your partner “Smartly”.
It is very important to understand your partner’s emotions and mindset before dealing with him/her. 21st century is full of people who are unstable and in the dire need of support. We take no time to come into the relationship, but it takes some time to comprehend the mentality of our partners. Some partners are a bit aggressive and frustrated, while some are quiet and serene. In either cases, it is very important to build some empathy and communicate with them, so we get a better understanding of their emotions. And the best the way to deal with a problematic partner is by being “proactive”. Think twice before shouting a retort, if you’re involved in a fight or a quarrel because you don’t know what they are going through inside their brain. We cannot control the situation but we can definitely control our response to it .
Don’t let emotions defeat your logic.
7. Refrain from living a one dimensional life.
Most of the teenagers and young adults spend 90 percent of their waking hours in either contemplating about their partners or worrying about their relationship. Their entire world revolves around just one person.The very thought of their partner seizes their will to concentrate on other spheres of life. Consequently, they completely disconnect themselves from the social life. Their only source of joy and happiness is dependent upon their partners. This one dimensional way of living could lead to some very detrimental consequences like depression and sadness, when their beloved one is not around. Talking to friends and family members or acquiring a hobby like reading or playing tennis is a great way to refresh our mind. Relationships are wonderful, but having a good social life is equally important.
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